White Knuckle Necessity
Once our goals are properly set and we work to put them in manageable pieces so that we “don’t choke” thereby allowing success to breed success, we have to hold on.
I will never forget the first time that I learned to water ski. I jumped in the water from the boat and was thrown the skis. With my life jacket keeping me afloat, I clumsily slid the skis on with an excitement I could almost taste. With the skis finally on, I was thrown the rope and given my instructions.
With my buddy’s dad, at the helm of the boat, I received the two pieces of advice that were “guaranteed” to get anyone up on their first time. From his seat behind the steering wheel, he barked out that to get up, I had to keep the rope in between the skis. Then, he gave me the most important thing to concentrate on.
I was to hold on—no matter what, he told me that if I wanted to water ski, it was imperative that I hold on. He said that if I would, I’d eventually get pulled up out of the water. Once I was up, he was sure it would get easy and I’d figure it out from there.
The engine started up and the boat began to slowly move away. The rope became taught, and as it did, I didn’t let that rope out from in between my skis for one second. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I am most comfortable keeping the rules. I’d been given two here and I was going to give all I had to keep them.
With the first part taken care of, I began to concentrate on the other piece of advice I’d been given, and over and over simply kept thinking, “Hold on. Just hold on.”
With everything in place I took a big breath, looked at my buddies sitting in the group and called out, “Hit it!”
The boat’s motor roared, and as the rope became taught, I looked down at my knuckles. They were white. I was holding on with such resolve—so tightly that the blood could no longer get through my fingers.
Holding on with all my might, the rope snapped tight and with a force I was totally and completely unprepared for, and yanked me forward.
I’d done everything I was told to the tee. However, with the rope in between my skis and my legs unprepared for the strength it was going to take to keep them straight, I flew head first through my skis and, like a submarine, I was pulled underwater for what seemed like the entire length of the reservoir.
I couldn’t believe the water I was taking in, but I was true to the second rule and kept telling myself, “Hold on. Just hold on and you’ll get up.”
Of course, in the boat, they were having a good ol’ time talking and laughing, forgetting to watch the skier (me), and when they finally did look back and saw me skimming just below the surface of the water, they screamed at the top of their lungs for me to let go. But I would have none of it. I was going to get up and knew that the only way I was ever going to get that done was to hold on. I have to admit it seemed an odd way to get up on skis, but I was going to keep true to the instructions I’d been given.
Finally, it was too much for my arms to bear; I let go, and floated to the top with a belly full of “Lucky Peak Reservoir” for my efforts.
Dedicated to get up, I got further instruction, and after a few tries, finally put all the pieces together and found myself upright on a pair of water skis. Up on those skis, behind that boat I looked around and realized I’d also found one of the real loves of my life.
In the end, however, I understood that his advice was right—If you hold on, just hold on, eventually you’ll end up with success.
Success doesn’t come every time; we all know that—especially on the first try. But, it does come, and most often to those who hold on to what they want with the same “White Knuckles” I used to hold on to that ski rope.
We have to decide what we really want and then hold on to those things with a “White Knuckled Necessity” if we want success.
If you want more money in 2010—a better job, less weight, more spirituality, better family relationships, or the like, you have to decide to use goals and resolutions to get there. However, that is more that just wishing for things to be different. Like anything worthwhile, it takes effort.
You have to make/set proper goals that are specific, have accountability and are measurable. You have to break the things you chase into manageable pieces, so you “don’t choke” on your first try. Then you have to hold on. Through good times and bad, when you feel the goal is doable and when you don’t you have a chance, you have to use the same mantra I used to learn to ski, “Hold on. Just Hold on!”
When you do, you find some of the real loves of your lives. I promise.
Here’s to a fantastic 2010 filled with resolutions accomplished and goals achieved.
Go get ‘em