If you’ve never checked out Lifehacker.com, you really should. It’s built on the idea that you can “hack” or find “work arounds” to eliminate much of the regular mundane stuff that bogs us down and eats up our time and money. With that idea in mind, the site is filled with all kinds of great info on easier ways to get around the regular things everyone has to deal with every day. The last time I checked the site, they had ideas for everything from a cheaper way to build a first aid kit for your car, to a way to keep your visits to the coffee shop to a minimum, to a easier way to build a theater system in your home.
It’s flat out chocked full with a whole horde of ideas on how to find little shortcuts and “hacks” to make life easier. I love the site, and use it on a regular basis.
In a similar vein, I see people trying to teach others that they can “hack” their way through the difficult parts of their lives. They promulgate products and offer up programs promising to have found a “work around” that’ll work for them. It comes assured as a way to delete difficulty—and then when it doesn’t work, it’s because they didn’t work hard enough or they quit too soon.
I see it all the time. Someone comes around with an easy answer, the promise is too much to pass up, and someone takes the bait. Then, after months and months of time and money, when it’s obvious the snake oil isn’t going to take hold, the answer comes that the sufferer simply didn’t want it bad enough.
The fact is, life is hard—and some things just can’t be fixed, no matter how bad we want them to. Life is filled with adversity and frustration that can’t be “worked around.” Although there is little question that there are ideas to help buoy us up in times of trouble and discord, the majority of the hard stuff simply has to be worked through.
There’s no quick fix, no pill, no “hack” or “cheat” that can change the harsh realities of life. For the most part the only prescription or program that will have any effect is a healthy dose of, “Pull up your bootstraps.” “Suck it up,” isn’t real popular, and definitely not PC, but reality is that most times it’s the only answer that really makes any difference.
We all know suffering, but what we also know is that there’s no easy out, no quick fix, no magic spell that can make it ”all better.” But in the end that’s a beautiful thing, because when the balance sheet is finally made right, it’s the hard things that we’ll be most grateful for.
They are the times where we learn the most about who we are and what we’re made of. They are the times when we get the chance to grow. It’s the struggle that stretches us; it’s the banging against the rocks that will keep us tough.
Only by being “knocked down,” do we find out if we’ve got the strength to get up off the.
There will be some that will read this and say…”So, what then? Is there nothing to do? Is there nothing that can be done?”
The answer is, “Of Course not.” There are so many things that we can do to lessen suffering—We just have to accept that most times we can’t have it taken away, and that we can’t take it away for others. In fact, we shouldn’t. For, the real irony is that it’s our own opportunity to endure adversity that gives us the ability to find out what we’re really made of.
Adversity will come (I promise you that), and it’ll be a real humdinger. But, when it comes, embrace it and accept it. Don’t waste your time trying to “hack” your way out of it. Just get after the business of enduring it well and watch the lessons you learn. I’m not saying it’ll be fun—no one ever promised you a rose garden—but, if you keep on keepin’ on, it’ll shape you in ways you never dreamed.